Friday 14 June 2013

Distance creates differences or makes the heart grow fonder


  • I had lain down on my bed, shut my eyes and was about to board the wonderland aircraft, when I sniffed a sense of insufficiency floating around.
    The dim light was on; I had my blanket in place, the mosquito repellant was switched on; still something seemed inadequate. My sister entered the room and sat on the bed without noticing me or talking to me. Yes, her engrossment gave me my answer. I was missing my mobile phone. I lifted my phone and scrolled through the innumerable unread messages on whatsapp; most of it which belonged to the group chats: Awesome Winsoms, here to rule, roomies, Angels and Demons, Rocking Cousins etc etc. Amidst these was a message from my cousin and my first friend -Aayush.
    “Hello Ms busy bee” the message read. I had not talked to him in weeks. I was about to call him then but suddenly something stopped me. It was not my ego but a question. Even he didn’t not call me all these days but just because he pinged me first does he have the liberty to label me as “busy”.
    I kept thinking about our childhood days when we met during the summer vacations. Every alternate year I used to spend my summer vacations at his place and he mine. We played among ourselves and with kids from the neighborhood. Once the vacations ended, we packed our bags to move on with our daily lives and we did not feel the need to communicate on daily basis just to show each other how much we missed being together or how much we were looking forward to the forthcoming vacation.
    While it is important to express your love for someone, proximity doesn’t define closeness.
    We should understand that people evolve and change with changing times and situations. Their behavior with you is a reflection of and their response to changing circumstances and not the changed love for you.
    It however is important to know who is there in your life for now and who is there to stay forever. Do not neglect the distant eternal relation for the mortal accessible one. What seem to be memories of a lifetime would fade with time only to make way and place for better ones. Let’s aim at differentiating the carvings from the footprints on the shore of sand called life.

    Has the increase in accessibility increased our expectations towards people, relationships or life in general? Or is accessibility the new name of love.
    Try and connect whenever possible ,express, spread love , prioritize people events and places, learn to know who is temporary and permanent and finally complain and expect less and do more.
    I decided to do away with the message and called him instead. And yes even if it was after weeks, we talked as if we had met yesterday,
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